Forgiveness means resolving to live with the consequences of another person's sin. You don't forgive others for their sake; you do it for you sake.
12 Steps to Forgiveness
- Ask the Lord to reveal to your mind the people you need to forgive.
- Acknowledge the hurt and the hate.
- Understand the significance of the Cross (Hebrews 10:10)
- Decide you will bear the burden of each person's sin (Galations 6:1-2)
- Decide to forgive.
- Take your list to God and pray the following: "I forgive (name) for (list all the offenses and how they made you feel)."
- Destroy the list.
- Do not expect your decision to forgive will result in major changes in the other person.
- try to understand the people you have forgiven, but don't rationalize their behavior.
- Expect positive results of forgiveness in you.
- Thank God for the lessons you have learned and the maturity you have gained as a result of the offenses and your decision to forgive the offenders (Romans 8:28-29)
- Be sure to accept your part of the blame for the offenses you suffered